#whygaymarriage

The definition is quite clear that marriage is the union between a man and a woman. So why do we want that changed?  Shouldn’t we have a terminology that describes same sex unions only? Are we that desperate to be the “same”???

I see too often the need to be politically correct, but in this instance I think we’re missing the point entirely! What we really want and need is the legal right of union not the legal right to use the word “Marriage” to describe our union.

Religiously speaking, do we seriously think that the Christian group would ever accept the change to include same sex couples in marriage? Their only argument so far has been that marriage is between a man and a woman as dictated in the bible and they have effectively used that to block all attempts to legalise same sex unions using that exact reason. So what would happen if we use a different terminology? Have we stop and thought about that!

There is no doubt that we are different and yet the same, but to try and change the meaning of marriage would be like trying to change the meaning of “Caucasian” to include other races…it just wouldn’t work and it shouldn’t work! We should be proud of the fact that we are different and not try to conform to general terminologies and ideals. To try and do so is not only painful but renders no positive result!

AS TIME GOES BY!

Well obviously someone didn't like what I said in the previous blog!! lol..but seriously I don't care whether you like it or not..it's how I feel and no one can tell me otherwise! I tried to be nice and even tried to continue being your friend...but there are just too many lies and I really don't know how to be your friend and not sure if I want to! I still care about you..how can I not? But you are not my responsibility and I am not obligated any more to be there for you...a friendship is a 2way street but there has only ever being 1 way traffic with you! So I choose to keep my distance for now and when you are ready to be a proper friend then I will reconsider my position!!!

2 months on since that last post and gee how things have changed. I look back and I do see the pain and anger and sorrow in what I wrote..but the wounds were still fresh at the time..and now wounds are healing fast with distraction and growth...and oh my how I've grown (put on 12 kg since that last post and I feel bloody great....wanting to put on another 10..so I've join the gym!!!) I can't say I'm a completely different person, but I can definitely say I'm a much happier one....I do have some very special people in my life, some old and some new....and without them it would have been a true struggle - so thank you very much especially to DJW (my life would have been a mess without you!!)

Survived my 1st single Mardi Gras and you know what?? It ain't so bad!! lol...albeit I'm still not big on going out and party...it was nice to see others having a great time and enjoying themselves to exhaustion!!! Maybe next year I'll do something fun and get on a float or something..but this year I was happy to just watch from a high vantage point and not get wet..lol

Hopefully in a few more months time..I can post on here that I've achieved my goal of gaining a further 10kg and have the body I've always wanted..I'm so sick of the "you're so lucky, so skinny" comments...if only people knew how hard it has being for me to put the weight back on!! I think it is equally hard for people on 2 ends of the scale - too big or too small!!

Forgive and Forget

It is feels kinda funny that after 11 years I am single...and come to think of it, I haven`t being single ever in my life for very long! I seem to jump from one long relationship to the next. I`m 32 going on to 33 this year and I have had 2 relationships since I was 17!

Now some people think I`m crazy, but what can I say? I love commitment! I love having someone to come home to and share my day, having someone to share my life and dreams with. Yes I know I could do that with friends but it`s just not the same or is it?

I have slowly coming around to the realization that I seriously need some time for myself...I have always looked after my other half and end up neglecting myself.  To put it in another way, I have sacrificed ME!! The most important person of all.

I am now learning to be single and trying to enjoy it...maybe the term trying is not quite correct,but I am just trying to get used to waking up and having no one there to hold or to look at or to snuggle up to, especially on cold nights. I am a independent person or so I thought. I never needed anyone to take care of me..but I think I needed to take care of someone for some reason. But now I choose to take care of myself.

I don't want to be selfish but I want to look at the world with different eyes and stop being so trusting and naive about human nature. One of the biggest lesson I have learnt from this recent break up is that human nature is quite ugly in fact! Because generally speaking everyone is selfish and greedy.

I recently had a conversation (if you can call it that) with my ex, and he said to me that I have never given him anything in 11 years! I didn't know quite how to take that - I was stunned into silence, which is quite a feat in itself. But the silence didn't last long. I blasted him by saying that I gave him 11 years of my life and that's more then what most people would give for a person like him! He took the most important thing from me - my heart!
Its not broken but damn it, its badly bruised and I don't know when or how I would ever let another person get so close.  But I don't want to be a bitter person, so I am trying to forgive but I will never forget.
I will never forget how stupid I was to take him back the first time he left me for another man, I will never forget how 1 day I came home early sick and found him naked in bed with another bloke, I will never forget how he has lied through out the years, I will never forget how I have let him do what he did for so LONG!!I will never forget that he has left me for the second time and with the same guy!

But I will forgive myself for making those mistakes, because I will never make them again.
I will find someone or someone will find me, that is worthy of me. I will forgive myself for thinking that he was the best I could have. I will forgive myself for all the lost opportunities of happiness.

I will never wish him ill, because after all I do love him and I want to be happy, but not at my expense. I will take back control of ME - actually I have taken back control of ME and I am happier for it.

So in the end I thank you, because without you doing what you did, I would never realize all the mistakes I have made and all the wrongs that I was doing to myself. So thank you and I wish you are happy because I am!

Questions to ex!

Being alone & feeling alone sucks! How can someone be so cold hearted in this world? I treated him good, better then myself. So frustrated! I can't even hate him! Why not?! This feeling is suffocating me! I'm not sad that he left, just the way he did it! And why the same guy?! Is that mean you were thinking about him all these time? You left me the 1st time for him & he dumped you like a piece of rubbish! I picked you back up & rebuilt your confidence & gave you everything you wanted, supported you when you were depressed, stood by you when others judged you as worthless! So why did you do it to me again?!
I keep trying to be happy but it really hurts...I feel like I've wasted the last 11years & not only achieved nothing but lost all that I had!

I will not let anyone do this to me again..I wont let anyone close enough to hurt me like you did! I will be smarter and I will treat myself better because I am worth it! And if I don't who will??!!

A fresh start!

So many feelings and thoughts today...I need strength!

After 11 long years, my relationship has run its course and I am now single.
It is kinda scary to think from this moment on, I no longer have someone to come home to, someone to share my most intimate secrets, someone to make me a cup of coffee just the way I like it....!

What is it about break ups? Is there a right way to do it? If so what is the right way?
First time being a dumpee...not sure how it feels yet..

Now I suppose is time for me to find myself again. That is not scary at all, I actually look forward to spend more time by myself and for myself! I have spent a large amount of time and energy on others in the past 11 years...I totally neglected myself and my dreams. I swear to never do that again.

I look towards the future and eagerly anticipate what is around the corner for me...

Value of Privacy!! #privacy

Recently there had being some hot discussion regarding privacy - especially privacy between neighbors.

How would you feel if your neighbor had a security camera set up on their property but the camera is pointed in your general direction? Would this be considered as an invasion of privacy??

I personally feels in this case it is an invasion of privacy..if my neighbor want to safe guard their property, I have no issues with that but pointing the camera on to my property will only safe guard my house not their's!

No one wants their home life videoed by their neighbor. Who knows you may find the footage either on YouTube or something similar...and then what can you do? You don't own the footage, so you can not request it to be removed...well obviously going to the neighbor won't be much help,as if they actually respected you,they would not have started filming in the 1st place.

So what do you think about this?? And how would or should you react?

Love to hear your opinions

How I feel about twitter

It's just a little over a month since I joined the twitter revolution (15.09.2011 I started)!

And I must admit I've kicked myself a few times for not joining sooner.. 😄
It provided me with endless entertainment and somehow made me part of a wider community or even a social family!! I love the fact that anyone can say anything at anytime!! And I love having a tweet discussion with someone on the other side of the world..for example just the other day Ms Lea Michele tweeted that she just woke up and outside is dark & she on way to work..well at the same time it was also dark outside for me but I was going to bed!!

With telephone, computers, mobile and now Internet...the world has truly become smaller!! But you guys know what I think about that?? I think less distance between people whether physical or virtual, is all a good thing. It allows people to understand each other better..and at times certain individuals have to learn acceptance as they can no longer just ignore...

So I'm gonna continue my adventure with twitter and hopefully more people join and expand this wonderful social network!!

88asiaoz signing off